A Step-by-Step Approach to Effective Discipline

STEP 1: IDENTIFY TARGET AND PROBLEM BEHAVIORS WITH YOUR SIGNIFICANT OTHER
Yelling
Cursing
Not Getting Homework Done
Talking Back
Staying Out Past Curfew

STEP 2: WORK ON ONE BEHAVIOR AT A TIME
If the behavior is complex, break the behavior down into parts.
For example, getting homework done each night: 1, Bring correct books home from school; 2, Complete Math homework first; and 3, Then focus on Spelling homework.

STEP 3: IDENTIFY SMALL, MEDIUM, AND LARGE REWARDS FOR YOUR CHILD AND MAKE A LIST
Small Reinforcers = verbal praise, high fives.
Medium Reinforcers = tangible items, edibles, special time alone with parent.
Large Reinforcers = a new video game/toy.

STEP 4: DEVELOP A CONTRACT WITH YOUR CHILD WITH REWARDS FOR COMPLIANCE AND CONSEQUENCES FOR NON-COMPLIANCE
Both the parent and the child should sign the contract.

STEP 5: DEVELOP A BEHAVIORAL CHILD AND POINT SYSTEM AND EXPLAIN IT TO YOUR CHILD
Make sure the behavior chart is visible to the child.
Allow the child to self-reinforce with stickers or points if he/she has met the criteria for earning the reinforcer.

STEP 6: REHEARSE THE BEHAVIOR WITH YOUR CHILD
Make it clear to the child what you will be expecting of him/her in order to earn the reinforcer.
Make sure they understand that if they do not participate in this behavior they will have to be placed in a timeout.

STEP 7: IN THE FIRST TWO WEEKS ONLY, GIVE POINTS FOR COMPLIANCE AND POSITIVE BEHAVIORS
Focus on only ONE BEHAVIOR AT A TIME and reinforce for it when the child demonstrates this behavior.
Make sure the child knows which behavior he/she is working on.

STEP 8: AFTER TWO WEEKS, POINTS CAN BE DEDUCTED FOR NON-COMPLIANCE
Make it clear to the child that you will now be taking away points for misbehavior.
In addition, the parents should identify how many points equal a timeout.
This should be shared with the child

STEP 9: ONCE THE BEHAVIOR IS HABITUATED, BEGIN TO WORK ON ANOTHER BEHAVIOR OR ANOTHER STEP OF THE SAME BEHAVIOR
Getting Math homework done each night is completed
Start on completing both math and spelling

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